Has your partner asked you to move in together? Here’s what to consider before saying yes

There’s much to consider before moving in together. Picture: Ivan Samkov / Pexels

There’s much to consider before moving in together. Picture: Ivan Samkov / Pexels

Published Feb 7, 2024


Since it is the month of love, many couples might be considering taking their relationship to the next level.

This doesn’t necessarily mean marriage proposals, but you could be ready to move in together.

This is a huge step for couples. It’s about as close to getting married as you can get.

If you’re loved one asks you to move in together this Valentine's, here are some important factors to keep in mind before saying “yes”.


Before moving in together, couples need to have open and honest conversations about their expectations, boundaries, and goals for the future.

Discuss things like finances, household responsibilities, and how you will handle potential conflicts.

Communication is key to ensuring that both partners are on the same page and can navigate challenges together.

Financial considerations

Many people consider living together thinking it could help save money.

This often means combining finances to some extent.

Couples should discuss how they will split expenses like rent, utilities, groceries, and other household costs.

It's also important to consider setting up a joint savings account for shared expenses or emergencies.

Being transparent about your financial situation and expectations can prevent misunderstandings and conflicts down the road.

It’s important to discuss your finances. Picture: Cottonbro Studio / Pexels

Personal space

Living together means spending a lot of time in close quarters, which can sometimes lead to feelings of being suffocated or overwhelmed.

Couples should discuss how they will create and maintain personal space within their shared living environment.

This could include having separate bedrooms or designated areas for alone time.


Living together can reveal aspects of your partner that you may not have been aware of before.

It's important to consider whether your lifestyles, habits, and values are compatible before making the decision to move in together.

Be prepared to compromise and find ways to accommodate each other's needs and preferences.

Long-term plans

Moving in together is often seen as a step towards a more serious commitment, like marriage or starting a family.

Couples should discuss their long-term goals and make sure they are on the same page about the future of their relationship.

If one partner sees living together as a temporary arrangement and the other sees it as a permanent commitment, it can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts.

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