It’s that time of the year. We’re all rushing to slow down. I can feel the year impaled in my bones and cannot wait to take a break. If you’re in hospitality this is the busy and silly season, so be kind to those around you. I don’t know what has happened to kindness.
I think it left with the first Trump Presidency but if I really think about it, it started with the quiz show ‘The Weakest Link’. We all tuned in to watch how people were humiliated on television. We loved the cruel words and barbs.
Being unkind became entertainment. We all started doing it.
We have forgotten common decency. Nobody says please and thank you anymore. In one of my other jobs (I have several to pay the bills) I handed out washable pads to 250 young women.
Personally, I think they are a wonderful gift. Sustainable, ecofriendly and money saving.
Our entitled youth however think that they are not for them, aspiring to landfilling disposables.
But back to kindness. Out of the 250 packs taken (and they were taken) do you know how many said thank you? One.
We have no table manners, no manners at all. Children push ahead of elders; parents sit on their phones and Trump is going to be president again.
This holiday season I would love us all to be a lot kinder. I am the first to admit that my mouth outruns my mind and is often unkind.
I bring my irritation into the bedroom which is a passion killer. I’m not going away at all this season which irritates me even more, so I am going to be extra mindful about my moods and intention.
Slowing down means we can concentrate on being mindful about our intimacy habits. If you’ve started treating sex like another chore on your to-do-list, I’m sure it shows and feels like it to your partner. Nobody wants to be on a to-do list. Unless it’s a mind-blowing do.
Slow it down. Try to reestablish a connection. During the year, things have changed. Your body may have gotten fatter or thinner, maybe you had a baby. Maybe your baby left home. You need to reconfigure.
It’s time for a conversation. Make it kind. Don’t accuse or blame. Rather talk about what would make you feel better. Life can be simple. We all want to be loved, desired and appreciated. It’s the little things.
If you always get coffee in bed, make an effort to change that around. Deliver it with an intentional kiss. You’ll be surprised at the effect.
Touch is a powerful healer. We tend to think that genitals and breasts are the only parts that need attention. They should be very last on the list. All you have to do is to gently stroke a neck or a hand. You can grab an ass later.
Make this season a bit kinder. You’ll be surprised at how it changes how you feel about yourself. You’ll smile more and we know that life is like a G-String. We’re all tuned in, and your frequency will influence and affect all of those around you.
I read a blessing or a curse recently. ‘May your day be as nice as you are!’ That landed.
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